Bridezilla

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"You dont seem like a Bridezilla." Those are the exact words one of my co-workers said to me yesterday afternoon. I smiled and said "No I'm not." And its true... I'm not a Bridezilla. Sure I may b*tch and moan to Justin or Melissa, but I never lose my cool. I pretty much just roll with it. If one vendor cant/wont do something that we want, I move on to the next and if they truely want my business, they will work with me so that both parties get what they want.


So how can you avoid becoming a "Bridezilla"?!?!



* start planning early & book your vendors as early as possible -- we've found that booking them early and spacing it out over the course of time helps keep the stress down. and financially we feel better because we are spending money over time and not just in one lump sum. which can be very stressful to even think about.

* research all of your vendors before booking them -- we've booked all of our big vendors for the wedding, but before we did I spent a lot of time reading about each one and read any reviews that had been posted. and any company that offers references or suggests that you read reviews on them gets an A+ in my book. They are proud of their business and want you to know it.



* be prepared for your vendor meetings -- if you arent prepared for your meeting, it can be a waste of time for you and the vendor and/or the vendor could completely run the meeting and your ideas/wants/needs arent met. then it becomes the vendors wedding and not yours



* stay positive -- yes, having to give up that dream location/caterer/vendor is a downer, but if you linger on the negatives, your wedding planning will suffer. our original venue didnt work out for several reasons, but we ended up finding the perfect venue for us. you have to believe that everything happens for a reason.



* keep an open mind -- not every idea/dream/plan you have is going to work out exactly the way you want it to. but if you keep an open mind, a better one might come to you that will work out.



* treat people the way you want to be treated -- something my Nanny always said, but its so true. If you are polite with your vendors, they will treat you well. And I mean very well.



We've been fortunate enough to pretty much get what we want for the wedding of our "dreams." Yes, we've had to give up some of those wants or move on to another vendor, but we are staying positive and making the best out of everything. We just want to have a great wedding with our family and friends, and thats really all that matters.

Have you had any bridezilla "moments"? How are you keeping from being a bridezilla?